How To Get Over Your Ex

It’s Valentine’s Day, and while the world is celebrating the joyful side of romantic relationships (maybe) I want to take this moment to focus on the other half of romance: Break-ups. Break-ups have been some of the most agonizing pain I have ever been through. Lots of other things have hurt of been challenging, but…

Individuality & Individuation

Whaddup Philosophers! I was invited to give a lecture The People’s Philosophy Colloquium in Portland, OR. They are an awesome organization. Check them out at: http://peoplescolloquium.org The topic I choose was: Individuality and Individuation: Contemporary Selfhood in Art Transcendence and Social Justice. ENJOY!! Here is the write up: Lecture Title: Individualism vs. Individuality: The Implications…

Rodent Poem

Hey Friends, I realized it’s been a while since I posted, so I’m sharing this journal page I wrote today in my car on the way home because why not:   Leaves skittering across the street like rodents. Something alive and searching something trying to survive.   I know enough to know you have to…

Core Erotic Templates

Four years a go I read The Erotic Mind by Jack Morin. It totally blew me away. The theories, connections and exercises he lays out in that book are life changing. I’ve spend the past four years studying this book and was privileged enough to lead a learning group about it. Check out a playlist…

Working With High And Low Dreams in Relationships

Hey Friends! Processwork has this super useful concept to understand why we act the way we do in relationships. They tie it to our deep fantasies (High Dreams) and our big trigger scenarios (Low Dreams). High and Low Dreams are actually profound psychological maps and show us intricate information about what issues we are working…

Mapping the Matrix of Narcissism and Codependency

Understanding the dynamics of Narcissism and Codependency has been one of the most important and transformative explorations of my life. Excited to share some of what I’ve researched and discovered in this video series. In in, we take a over arching look at the system dynamics of Narcissism and Codependency. How do they work together?…

Internal Tools for Intimate Relationships

Relationships, baby! They are a beautiful thing. And can be SUPER challenging. Here are some clips from my recent online workshop for http://www.ProcessworkOnline.com   sharing some tools and perspectives that have helped me IMMENSELY when it comes to working with my own process in relationships. So often in relationships we feel hurt, paralyzed, confused, upset, unable…

Life Skillz

What are the skills that actually contribute to becoming an adult? I will probably always need people on YouTube to tell me how to do my taxes and organize my closet, but does knowing how to do those things make me an adult? This video series shares some of the skills I’ve learned along the…

OAXACA

Oaxaca City As soon as I land I can feel it. That special aliveness, the electricity, that comes from cities of true cultural diversity. Where different peoples rub up against each other like sticks making fire. All those static edges exploding potential creativity into true vibrancy. Teachers and students, artists and internationals, people from all…

The Path of Desire

Facing desires, entering into them, distilling their quality to discover what we are growing into becoming.

Multi-Dimensionality as a Tool of Decolonization

This was gonna be about adding a cosmic perspective to social analyses of oppression and and ended up being about self-honesty, solidarity and truth. Same, same… right? maybe? kinda. Enjoy!

How To Tell If You’re Coming From Love or Fear

Yo friends. That is a super arrogant title. Who ever knows what’s actually going on? The fact that any of this is happening or that anything exists is a timeless mystery. My friend did give me this super helpful tip, tho, that has been helping me feel when I am coming from love vs. fear…